How Can I Be the Best Guest When Heading Out This Holiday Season?

So…there is lots of talk about being a “Good Host/Hostess”, but what about the guest? There are definitely some things you can do to become a “Good Guest”, a guest that will be remembered for the good things they did vs. the not-so-good things or even just shear indifference.


Here are some tips to get your through this holiday season with dining debonair.

  1. RSVP in a timely manner, asking questions during the interaction. What is the attire? May I bring something? May I bring a date or a few friends? These leading questions will help guide you on what to do and not give your Host an unwanted “aha moment”.
  2. Did you know that 4 in 10 Americans, 40%, have either done, or know someone who has done something inappropriate or embarrassing at an office holiday party? Well that is not a good way to impress the boss. No when to say when, when it comes to partaking in Holiday Cheer!      mad-men-holiday-party1
  3. Thank your host/hostess! It takes planning and funding to throw a party or event, so it is mannerly to show your appreciation. Make sure you say “thank you”, if possible, before you depart an event and then follow up with a written note. An email thanks is nice, but sending a real thank you note…well you will be remembered, and the gesture appreciated!

Being a good guest is important to the overall impression you present. You never know who might be dining next to you or who you will bump into at a cocktail party.

You want to be invited back? Let the last impression be a positive one!

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Check out our Dining Dilemmas page in our website for other tips. (link the did you know Dining Dilemmas page)

You are invited to share when you were the Best Guest. Please post with a reply…


Lisa and Demetria

Co-Founders – Mother, May I

Is it ok to discuss Religion and Politics?



So… I am sure most of you have heard the old adage, ”don’t discuss religion or politics”.    Why is that do you think? I think it is because people are so passionate about their point of view surrounding these two topics, it seems very possible that the discussion may turn to fist a cuffs. We have seen that throughout history, and are dealing with such polarizing topics as America’s involvement in Syria to the legalization of Gay marriages. But in polite conversation, you have to mask that anger and frustration and maintain a civil conversation. That is hard…and so we resist it.

Conflict, actually, can be positive or negative, constructive or destructive, based on how we approach, engage and navigate the conflict. Constructive conflict, occurs when people express disagreement without hostility and with a commitment to an effective resolution of the conversation. But in this digital age where people can weigh in on any topic behind the comfort and security of their computer screen or mobile device…well the conversation can get downright vulgar and unproductive. Take Emma Watson’s speech to the UN on women’s equality…well that seems like a topic we can all give a group hug to. Well one of the reporters had to threaten to take her blog down based on the critical and crude posts that were popping up.

Here are some tips to help you have a constructive conversation about polarizing topics.

  • Active listening – do not dismiss an opinion just because it is not in-line with your own( link back to our Did you know tab under Do You Understand me)
  • Never demean or belittle intelligence or character of the person you are speaking with
  • Have a conversation, respecting other’s opinions…agreeing to disagree if necessary
  • Speak your opinion in a non-threatening manner

Many a friendship, family connection and career have been lost by handling this topic without grace and proper manners.

And for you bloggers out there…if you wouldn’t feel comfortable making your comment face to face, I would refrain from posting it. It is a poor reflection on you, that could come back to haunt you.

In the end, disagreements are healthy. In public discourse, there are difficult problems that do not have simple solutions. It is ok to have a conversation and ultimately to agree to disagree with someone. The key word being…Conversation!

We would like to start a conversation…Agree or Disagree, Is that the question?

Lisa & Demetria

Co-Founders Mother, May I – Etiquette Experts