In honor of Earth Day this week, I thought I would talk about where good manners started to grow. Some might view proper manners as a scene out of Downton Abbey Manners of Downton Abbey . Well they actually have a different origin…though etiquette has been known since ancient times, it acquired its classic form in the Middle Ages. Most researchers dealing with history of culture attribute the appearance of etiquette as a regulatory system to those times… the “law” you might say, that was put in place to keep order. Etiquette had the character of the law and had a very strong influence on the high society. Violation of the rules of etiquette was regarded as a crime.
So fast forward to today…bad manners won’t land you in the stocks, but could deter your opportunities to get into the school you want, or get the job you desire. Learn more about Interview Etiquette here: College and Beyond with MMI
Some, feel manners are a lost art, but we say go to lost and found and find those manners, because good manners and professional behavior will find you avenues you may not have thought existed.
So we will start by discussing the “Family Table”…
What’s that you might say? Well as the name suggests, it is your family sitting around the table for a meal…consistently. From personal experience, that’s where it was sketched into my head: “Put your napkin on your lap” “Don’t talk with your mouth full!” “What do you say when you leave the table…oh yes…May I be excused? Well that table talk has lost its priority and has been all but eliminated for lots of reasons: multiple households, many afterschool activities, forgetting the importance, and the list goes on.
Our suggestion is to find that Family Table…even if it is only once a week! Treat that time as a technology free zone and go through the details of manners at the table with your family. Help create small talk during the meal by having everyone discuss the best part of their day. Hopefully they will say…this meal!
The New York Times just published an article about our up and coming youth Make Way for Generation Z . Preparing kids with the best possible soft skills, like manners, will improve their opportunities as young adults! Good manners as a kid, turns into a positive impression, which turns into personal and professional SUCCESS throughout their lives!
Mother May, I has contributed to a podcast on Tuesday, April 21st at 10AM EST.
Please tune in at Mom Talk Podcast Mother, May I and listen to some helpful hints for kids and young adults or click play below!
Let us know how you have created a Family Table. We would love to share your successes with our followers.
Thank you and Happy Earth Day…Grow something good today!
Lisa and Demetria
Co-Founders Mother, May I – Etiquette Experts