So the 87th Academy Awards show has come and gone and it seems that almost everyone behaved in a way that didn’t leave a negative taste in your mouth. I have an Oscar party ever year and it made me think, as people walked my handmade red carpet, what do people think of me as I travel down the “Red Carpet” of life? What impression do I throw out into the world? Most people will judge you within the first seconds of meeting you and their opinion will most likely never change. Making a good first impression is incredibly important, because you only get one shot at it.
So I guess there is something to this notion.
So I am going to offer some helpful hints on how you can be make your first impression the best it can be!
- Set an intention. The most important thing to do for giving a good impression is to set your intention. This is especially important before any kind of big event where you would be meeting a lot of people — i.e. conferences, networking events or friend’s parties. Ask yourself, What do you want the outcome of this encounter to yeild.
- Be conscious of your body language. Body language is a crucial part of first impressions. Everything from your posture to how you carry yourself to the way you’re angling your body. Often, simply being aware of your body language can result in immediate improvements. Take a video of yourself or create a buddy system so you get real time feedback on your subconscious actions. Subconscious cues to keep in mind include noticing where you point your feet, your posture, the way you shake hands and eye contact.
- Be interested and interesting. If you are truly interested in meeting people and are open to learning about who they are, they will get this in a first impression. Do some homework before attending a meeting or event so you have at least 3 nuggets of information to impart that would add to the conversation or to that first meeting. Google comes in handy for this pre-work.
- Think about your ornaments. Clothes, make-up, jewelry, watches and shoes are all types of ornamentation and people definitely take these into account when making initial judgments. I highly recommend getting some of your favorite outfits or ornaments together and asking friends you trust what they think of when they see them.
- SMILE… Putting a smile out there will get you one in return! Many wise business men trusted in that…Andrew Carnegie, Henry Ford, Management of Nestle USA… Shep Hyken and Mother, May I They believed that smiling breaks down barriers and is an invitation, a sign of welcome. It says, “I’m friendly and approachable.” Even if you find yourself in a bad mood before an important event, do something that gets that smile on…mine is listening to Taylor Swift singing Shake it Off!
Whether going to an interview or a networking event, being prepared to solidify an amazing first impressions is time well spent. Because after all, you only have one time to make a good first impression!
Tell us what you do to help get you in the mood to make a great first impression..
Lisa and Demetria
Co-founders Mother, May I