Know Before You Go…Be Respectful of Others and Country Customs

R.E.S.P.E.C.T: a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements. Its a positive feeling for a person or other entity. Respect can be given or received. Depending on an individual’s cultural reference frame: respect can be something that is earned or built over time.

If respect is considered a positive feeling, why does it seem to be lacking in our society. What is happening to our culture? Where is our respect for other cultures and their rules of protocol?

Since we are entering our summer months of travel, I want to focus on understanding the culture of other countries.

Know Before You Go..Do some homework if you are traveling. Here are some travel etiquette guides to tuck away in your travel log. These guides will help you show respect for others and in turn respect will be given back to you.

Did you know?…

  •  That other countries do not celebrate Flag Day. The US celebrates Flag Day on June 14.
  • Unlike the USA–In Asia, faith and ritual are inseparable from business and everyday life.  You must show respect for a person’s beliefs. Most recently, a few Westerners decided to show a bit more than their respect…Read the article on the Huffington Post website: Tourists Who Posed Naked On Malaysia Mountain Sentenced To 3 Days In Jail.
  • Also in Asia, If you are a man, wait for a women to initiate a handshake. There may be cultural or religious taboos against women shaking hands with men outside of the family.
  • Leaving anything on your plate in Belize is disrespectful. Learn more on www.kissboworshakehands.com
  • When relaxing in Costa Rica, don’t rest your feet on any furniture except items expressly designed for that purpose.
  • In Guatemala, the “okay” sign (thumb and forefinger forming a circle) is considered obscene.

This list can go on and on, and knowing before you go will keep you feeling confident and secure about yourself in your travels. We should always show respect to other countries and their cultures. In turn, we can expect travel to our country to be respected as well.

If you would like to share a travel etiquette post on a place you visited, please share it on our Facebook! We want to know before we go any news about your travels.

Demetria and Lisa

A Presidents Day Review: Washington’s Rules of Civility

Mother, May I….02.19.15

Do you know how to introduce the President of the United States?

Continue reading to learn more…

Monday marked the national holiday called Presidents Day.
Did you know that Presidents Day does not really celebrate any specific President? The intent of Presidents Day today is to offer our nations’ government workers a 3 day holiday.

The orign of Presidents’ Day dates back to 1800. Following President George Washington’s death in 1799, his February 22nd birthday became a perennial day of remembrance.
Did you know that at the age of 14, George Washington wrote down 110 rules under the title “Rule of Civility & Decent Behavior in Company and Conversation.” Even today, his rules of protocol codes of conduct and manners resonate. Mother, May I helps keep those codes of conduct front and center.

In honor of Presidents’ Day, we would like to share three of his written rules:

George Washington Rules of Civility

Washington’s Rules of Civility

Every action done in company ought to be with some sign of respect to those that are present.(in other words-pay attention)
In the presence of others sing not to yourself with a humming noise, nor drum your fingers or feet. (in other words-no fidgeting)
Wear not your clothes foul, ripped or dusty, but see that they be brushed once every day, at least, and take heed that you approach not to any uncleanliness. (in other words, personal hygiene and mindful dressing is important).

Read the full list of Washington’s Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior.

Did you know that when visiting the George Washington National Memorial proper attire is required. Nonetheless, somewhere along the way-we forget to observe that simple code of conduct when visiting any national monument and wear proper monument visiting attire.

And to answer the question above…

Did you know that the President of the U.S.A.’s surname is never mentioned. He is spoken to and addressed as Mr. President or Sir. And, he is introduced first. So, even if you won’t be introducing any presidents this Presidents Day- please observe this National Holiday with respect.

If you want to learn more about how to make an impressive introduction, email us at info@mothermayimanners.com. Our words of advice will get you empowered to succeed towards your own presidential level.

Demetria and Lisa

How to Build a Better Relationship Every Day

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So it is actually kind of ironic that I would get this weeks topic to write about…see the thing is, I don’t really believe in “Valentine’s Day”. No, I am not bah hum bug to love…the contrary actually, just feel that Valentine’s Day is a commercialized holiday in order to sell more price hiked flowers or make jewelry stores more profit. I have had, like most of us, my share of not so great relationships, but if you can change your approach to a more mannerly one, odds are things will improve. So I am going to offer some helpful hints on how you can be more mannerly in relationships…all year round, vs. just one day of the year!

  1. Communicate and Listen to each otherMother, May I teaches the benefits of active listening skills, which has been proven to improve relationships at home and at work. Feeling like you are being heard is important making you feel respected.
  2. Live respectfully…  No matter how frustrated you are, it’s always better to be respectful to your spouse, partner, friend, co-worker, than not.  Make it your charge to act respectfully, and ask that you be similarly treated.  This means watching your tone of voice, speaking about your own needs rather than other’s shortcomings, and remembering to find the positives in each other.  Living respectfully also means respecting yourself!
  3. Rethink “I’ve got to…”  It’s amazing how easy it is to get caught up in an “I’ve got to (fill in the blank)” mentality.  Yet a really honest assessment suggests that many “got to’s” are actually “choose to’s.”  Be accountable with your needs and the needs of your partner and focus on the “choose to’s”.  Look at the bright side! A change in attitude can compliment your relationships in general.
  4. Embrace the differences… you’ve heard the old adage that opposites attract, but do they stay together? Well it depends on how we handle each other’s differences. Civility is the key!  Accept your differences and allow those to strengthen your relationship. Don’t view your differences as problems, but view them as an opportunity for you to be with someone who will bring you out of your comfort zone.
  5. Keep smiling and laughing… Don’t be misled, happy relationships have serious moments too. Even arguing is part of a healthy relationship, but happy couples get each other’s sense of humor. Couples who keep things lighthearted when they don’t need to be serious show that they still value the traits that brought them together in the first place.

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Whether going on your first date or in a long time relationship, a proper code of conduct in relationships will help manage the process.

Pick one mannerly behavior you want to improve in your relationship building style…Let us know it changes things!

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Sincerely,

Lisa and Demetria

Co-founders Mother, May I

 

Bad Manners of 2014…the year in review!

new-year-hd-clipart   So… we have decked the halls and spun the dreidel and now it is time to look back and reflect on the year gone by.  Here are some manner mis-haps that might help get you started on that New Year’s resolution list!

Not in any particular order, mind you, but we have hit the highlights or low-lights as you will see…

  • RSVP…do you know what that means? Well lots of people missed that memo when a company sit down dinner party ended up with 96 extra guests! Read the full RSVP story.
  • Being mindful/considerate of personal space… Ever heard of “Manspreading”? Well it started making news from the inconsiderate practice of men taking up more than one seat on NYC subways. Read the entire Manspreading article.

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  • Respect our military… Several Presidents have been inadvertently inconsiderate when it came to protocol when greeting our military. We have always said multi-tasking is overrated! Read the whole Obama Coffee Salute article.

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  • Did you know that more than 65% of all business conducted happens during a meal?…Well we are taught to not talk with our mouth full and at this year’s Nathan’s Hot Dog eating contest, there was no time for talking!
  • Respect for one another… Laurence Sternes said “Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guide our manners”. Tell that to Donald Sterling, Ray Rice and Bill Cosby!
  • Proper dress will lead to success… Fashion faux pas were abundant this year, but one we thought was the most glaring and daring, and for her audience… inappropriate! Find out who here: NewsDay’s Celebrities Behaving Badly
  • Social Media has a loud voice… Your questionable actions, which 5 years ago may have flown under the radar, now have wings thanks to Social Media. Toys R Us and Breaking Bad action figures, seemed like a Bad idea, well most of you thought so too.

 Let us know the biggest infractions that you found newsworthy this year! Share with us on Facebook or Twitter!

Thank you for engaging and we wish you’all a happy and healthy New Year…

  • Cheers!

    Lisa and Demetria

    Co-founders- Mother, May I